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Finding MR RIGHT

I am happily married (YES one can be happy and married, it can coexist) for 3 years. So, that implies I have found my “MR RIGHT” or have I?

Flashback:

From 2006-2010- I started my job, relocated cities, was staying away from home and my parents. I was discovering my likes, dislikes. I was experiencing crushes, friendship, feelings for the other sex like any normal 20+-year-old girl. I was building a checklist of the kind of guy I would end up with. Days passed and grew into years, so did my checklist. I never believed in true love or love is forever. I was quite practical and fiercely feminist. I divided the checklist into parts (Must have, Good-to-have)

So, my checklist

1)A guy who loves his bikes. (Must Have…effects of the late-night bike rides with my office group)

2)A guy who doesn’t smoke or do drugs. (Must have…I’m strictly against it)

3)A guy who doesn’t drink initially, then it changed to someone who drinks socially. (Good-to-Have).

4)Humor. (Must have…. Someone who could crack me up)

5)A guy who is not a software engineer. We both can’t be from the same fields. (Good-To-Have, I did not want to end up with someone who could give me advice on how to code, I wanted someone just to listen when I crib)

6)A guy with a creative bent (can play any musical instrument, can write poems) (Good-to-have, Words are the best way to impress me)

7)A guy who loves travelling, reading. (In between Must-have and good-to-have)

8)A guy who is well-updated with politics, sports, current affairs. (Must-have. To keep the conversation flowing always)

9)A guy who can handle my ambition. (Must have. If I think now more than ambition I wanted equality. I did not want to be the one who would compromise, sacrifice. I did not want to mold my dream, desires as per the society.)

Based on this checklist, I started knocking down advances from the opposite sex. I also knocked down my crushes and feelings from developing into liking. I was sure then (or so I thought) about my must-haves.

Finally, I ended up with my husband who can’t ride bikes, loves his drinks, no creative bent whatsoever (extremely bad with choice of words). He used to smoke and quit after we started dating. He is not an avid reader. He likes to travel but our ideas of what to do on a vacation is very different. Looks like I ended up with MR WRONG.As they say LOVE IS BLIND.

He is a mechanical engineer (Thank God for that and I think he does some very fancy things like designing a plant). He is interested in politics, sports, current affairs. He is a people person. He can crack me up (Though I still think my sense of humor is better than his). Most importantly, he is a feminist. I had a good idea that he is quite forward thinking guy, but his strong belief in equality is what I realized only after marriage. Wow, he looks like my MR RIGHT.

Honestly, I no longer care if he is MR RIGHT or MR WRONG. The only thing matters now is that we are happy together despite our flaws and differences.

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Planning a Pre-Wedding PhotoShoot

Come wedding season and your facebook feeds are filled with the pre-wed photo shoots of all the couples. Beautiful background, lovely dresses and mushy pose; replace one couple with another and you won’t notice the difference. Like always we will simply like the photos on facebook (it has become sort of an obligation nowadays).If you are the bride or groom to be, please think out of the box .Each love story is unique, then why the photo-shoot should be same!!

  1. Think of a theme/story:

We spend a considerable amount of time and money in choosing a good candid photographer for our pre wedding shoots. But we rarely spend time in thinking about the theme. Most of the photos I see is of couples with beautiful dresses and beautiful backdrops. But there is a story missing. What if you can give a theme to your photo-shoot (Comic/Any series) or tell your love story or any other story (Any fable or any of your favorite fictional couple).

I had penned down our story for our invite. And I did my photo shoot based on the same. Our photo shoot got featured in WeddingSutra- Our Story. Many people reverted back to me saying they loved the invite and photos.

Of course I had shot the mushy and funny photos too besides the one I shot for the story.

2) Decide on location:

Based on your theme/story, choose your location. Try to keep the locations as real as possible. If you had met at a bus stop- Shoot at a bus stop. If you both like beaches, shoot one at the beach. Do not pick a location just because it is beautiful.

3) Decide on the dresses:

Story gives you ample of opportunities to try variety of dresses. You can wear casual clothes to depict your first meet. If you first met when you both went on a hike, wear the dresses to recreate the same. You can wear beautiful gowns to depict your first date or anniversary.

4) Work with your photographer:

Brainstorm with your photographer on every aspect. Luckily, my photographer was a close friend. However she and her partner were thorough professionals. She prepared a word doc depicting her visualizations of the photo.

My photographer-IfPixelsCouldTalk

5) Using the photos:

This is an idea my photographer friend had. She displayed photos on Facebook one or two a day. This created quite a curiosity. My friends, colleagues, relatives all were waiting to see more. It was my star moment. We made sure to not use the same photos that I will use in my invite. She then printed those photos and we displayed it at our marriage hall. This way all the non-facebook users too could see it. The elders of the family too loved the idea and they were all happy with the novelty of the concept.

So rack your brains and heart and think of something unique and personal to capture a lifetime of memories.